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Not Every Disappointment Means “Avoidant”
If you are anxiously attached, it can be painfully easy to confuse disappointment with proof. This piece explores why uncertainty feels so threatening, why not every frustrating moment means your partner is avoidant, and how tolerating ambiguity can help you love with more clarity and less suffering.

Deborah Vail
Apr 46 min read


Bobbing and Weaving
"No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt Current events of all kinds have, once again, caused...

Deborah Vail
Nov 1, 20234 min read


New Boundaries & Healing Group Starts September 22, 2023
Boundaries and Healing: Empowering Skills for Painful Relationships - this new group begins Friday, September 22, 2023 at noon. Group...

Deborah Vail
Apr 18, 20231 min read


New Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy Group starts June 9th!
MBCT is proven effective in preventing relapses of depression, and in relieving the severity of symptoms in anxiety disorders....

Deborah Vail
Apr 17, 20231 min read


Walk and Talk Therapy now available!
I now offer Walk-and-Talk Therapy at my O'Fallon, Missouri office! Walk and talk therapy, also known as eco therapy or nature therapy,...

Deborah Vail
Apr 13, 20231 min read


Lionheart Virtual Tour - New Fort Zumwalt Office
I am pleased to report my new office in O'Fallon, Missouri, right next to Fort Zumwalt Park, is open for business and welcoming clients...

Deborah Vail
Apr 11, 20231 min read


New Lionheart Psychotherapy Phone Number
Please make note of the new Lionheart Psychotherapy, LLC phone number! (636) 626-4300 As I put down roots here in Missouri, it was time...

Deborah Vail
Mar 13, 20231 min read


3 Steps to Mindful Self-Compassion
Mindful self-compassion talk seems to be everywhere these days, peddled as a potent antidote to the critical inner voice many of us live...

Deborah Vail
Jan 29, 20223 min read


New on the Lionheart YouTube Channel: EMDR Container and Safe & Calm Place Homework
I have created a visualization guide for use by existing Lionheart Psychotherapy clients currently undergoing EMDR treatment with me. ...

Deborah Vail
Jan 29, 20221 min read


Avoiding Appearance Evaluations: There's Plenty Else to Talk About
Most people have inadvertently judged someone's appearance, including me. A few folks have probably done it intentionally or in jest - I...

Deborah Vail
Jan 18, 20223 min read


Mindfulness Glitter Jar
I made a YouTube video of a glitter jar mindfulness demonstration. In this brief video, I talk about how mindless, discursive thinking...

Deborah Vail
Dec 11, 20211 min read


"The Anatomy of Peace" - A Poem by John Roedel
We talk a lot in my office about the refuge our breath can provide from judgmental thinking, especially in the mindfulness-based...

Deborah Vail
Oct 22, 20212 min read


Adding Insult to Injury: Avoiding Responsibility after Hurting Someone
When you bump somebody accidentally, for example while reaching for something near them, the natural instinct for most of us is to...

Deborah Vail
Oct 19, 20215 min read


Toxic Chasing in Relationships
I've always enjoyed sending old-fashioned snail mail, making birthday celebrations for others, and remembering upcoming important life...

Deborah Vail
Oct 17, 20215 min read


Honoring Your Natural Rhythm
Our bodies crave healthy routine, and many systems in our body operate on a 24-hour clock, called the Circadian Rhythm. These 24-hour...

Deborah Vail
Oct 14, 20212 min read


Digital Rumination
Rumination is the behavior of repeatedly thinking about negative topics that trigger increased emotional distress. People who habitually...

Deborah Vail
Oct 14, 20212 min read


Halloween Horrors - Yay or Nay?
Halloween approaches and all around us is evidence that some of the world is obtuse to the experience of others. At least, as a trauma...

Deborah Vail
Oct 12, 20212 min read


Lionheart Psychotherapy on YouTube
Check out Lionheart Psychotherapy on YouTube.

Deborah Vail
Oct 11, 20211 min read


The Social Dilemma - Watch Free Through 9/30!
The Emmy Nominated film "The Social Dilemma" is available for free on YouTube through September 30th. Its one hour and fifteen minutes...

Deborah Vail
Sep 2, 20211 min read


Caffeine Induced Anxiety Disorder
Coffee producers have done an excellent job associating their product with comfort, as reflected in advertisements of the steaming brew...

Deborah Vail
Aug 29, 20213 min read
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